Where did my Mojo go?


For a few days now I’ve been thinking a lot about my blog and noticed I actually haven’t written from my heart in a while. When I started The Black Writer, I wanted to be able to motivate and speak to my readers , I wanted to share my life with you and hoped it would be an example. Of course with a little bit of fun here and there. And now thinking back, since I started my final year I haven’t been able to do that. I don’t know if it’s the stress from school that’s distracting me or I’m just loosing it. 


School went on break for two weeks, I spent my break sleeping, eating and thinking. Oh yh!!! I got a lot of thinking done, not just about my blog but my life generally. For a long time I had been blind to a lot of truths, my judgements had been clouded and I had made decisions on wrong basis. 


I Talked to God a lot about all these feelings and I’m just gonna sit and watch Him take care of me. 

Soon I’ll start writing again and I can’t wait to share them with you. 



Kisses for you all๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹. 

Outfit Details

Tank top: Mr Price 

Skirt : Gifted from my sister

And my make up was inspired by Ofure

Have you been reflecting about your life and the direction it’s going, your blog or your business? How’s that coming for you ? 

Have you seen 

My mid year bucket list
My Leibster Award post

Mid Year Bucket Listย 


Hello there my beautiful readers๐Ÿ˜Š. 

It is my usual tradition to come up with a to-do list at the beginning of the year. I write all the adventures, places I want to visit and things I want to do. Anyways, this year I didn’t feel like it so I just stuck to writing my goals of which I had just one goal. 

This year has been a challenging one for me although I’ve been fighting my way through it. Things have happened that has made me change my perspective of life, change the way I see things, shift my focus and restrategize. 

When it dawned on me that half of the year was gone already I was like , Oh Wow! I haven’t even had serious fun!!!!!  I got inspired to come up with this, it’s never too late lol. 


Just because I like the picture ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

Mid Year Bucket List!!

1. Go Kayaking

2. Go to Canada

3. Climb a rock / mountain

4. Visit a Cafe ( funny how I’ve never been to one) 

5. Go to an art Gallery 

6. Complete my relationship Challenge. Read about it Here and Here

7. Do a proper photography challenge for a month 

8. Visit an African Country ( Ghana excluded) 

9. Read 5 books ( small Yh, I have a long semester ahead. Best not to kid myself) 

10. Get a silk press ( time to show shrinkage who’s the boss) 

11. Tour around Nigeria (even though it’s just 3 states or 2 ) 

12. Go paint balling or fighting, or whatever it’s called. 

13. Have a restaurant tour for maybe 1 week. Sad how I haven’t really toured Lagos food culture and I’ve been here 5 years ( God will provide the money) 

14. Afropolitan Vibes!!!!!!!!! Yes, beat me. I haven’t attended any ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

15. Have a party at an orphanage. 

16. Have a picnic with friends on the grass, eating sandwiches and stuff ( how????) 

Yo! So this is it for now, this list is subject to an update. If I think of doing anything else, I’ll include it๐Ÿ˜Š


Because I’m so full of life๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜. 

So which of these have you tried recently? I’m gonna need some partners oh. Can’t be doing all these on my own so hit me up if you’re interested in any. Please suggest places for me oh. 



Relationship Challenge Update I

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Relationship Challenge

Some weeks ago, I talked about my relationship challenge, if you missed it you can view it HERE. The aim of this challenge was to build communication with my boyfriend; I donโ€™t even know if I should call him that or partner because heโ€™s actually more than a boyfriend.

The past few weeks have actually been very annoying, we have fought more than ever and it actually put a strain in the relationship. When we started dating everything was rosy, I was at home, had all the time on my hands and no stress. We used to talk for long hours over the phone, see every weekend, send pictures to each other, it was just really cool.

After the Christmas holiday, I got back to Lagos, school work set in and everything just changed. The long hours turned to 5 mins, I hardly sent pictures, was always tired after class. There were a lot of challenges with my resumption and I basically just got too busy for him. When the fights had gone on for too long, I just knew I had to do something because I didnโ€™t want my past mistakes to occur again. Things are actually changing but before I lose focus, this post is about my relationship update, Iโ€™ll talk about the relationship challenges and how Iโ€™m working on them in another post. Itโ€™ll be a kind of follow up post to my the thing about break ups

Now the relationship challenge updateโ€ฆ

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